Do you have low self esteem? Do you have a constant fear of rejection? Are you a perfectionist? Do you become overhwhelmed when you are around people all the time? Are you very task oriented? Then the chances are, you have a Melancholy temperament. Remember our temperament is the God given characteristic given to us before birth. Our personality is our “mask” of who we portray ourselves to be.
I recently learned all about temperaments and found out that I am a Melancholoy. I was not very happy to discover that. Everything about a Melancholy seemed negative to me, which made me even more depressed. The only thing that gave me comfort was the fact that I discovered that I wasn’t crazy and abnormal, thinking “what’s wrong with me?” I realized that my behaviors and feelings were part of my temperament and there are a lot of people with my same temperament. Unfortunately, out of all the temperaments, Melancholies are usually the only temperaments who wish that they were something else.
- However, being a Melancholy is NOT all negative. See the positive aspects of a Melancholy:
- Avoids Conflicts
- Deep and Thoughtful
- Artistic (They say that Whitney Houston was a Melancholy)
- Faithful, devoted friend
- Encourages Others
- Talented, Creative
- Communes Easily with God
We are INCREDIBLE people..we just have to keep telling ourselves that daily, no probably hourly….
Hang in there if you are a Melancholy, you are not alone. If you don’t know your temperament you should go and get tested. It will help you to understand yourself a lot better!