Monthly Archive: August 2014

What is a Melancholy?

Do you have low self esteem? Do you have a  constant fear of rejection? Are you a perfectionist? Do you become overhwhelmed when you are around people all the time? Are you very task oriented? Then the chances are, you have a Melancholy temperament. Remember our temperament is the God given characteristic given to us before birth. Our personality is our “mask” of who we portray ourselves to be.

I recently learned all about temperaments and found out that I am a Melancholoy.  I was not very happy to discover that. Everything about a Melancholy seemed negative to me, which made me even more depressed. The only thing that gave me comfort was the fact that I discovered that I wasn’t crazy and abnormal, thinking “what’s wrong with me?” I realized that my behaviors and feelings were part of my temperament and there are a lot of people with my same temperament. Unfortunately, out of all the temperaments, Melancholies are usually the only temperaments who wish that they were something else.

  • However, being a Melancholy is NOT all negative. See the positive aspects of a Melancholy:
  • Analytical
  • Organized
  • Avoids Conflicts
  • Deep and Thoughtful
  • Artistic (They say that Whitney Houston was a Melancholy)
  • Faithful, devoted friend
  • Encourages Others
  • Talented, Creative
  • Communes Easily with God

We are INCREDIBLE people..we just have to keep telling ourselves that daily, no probably hourly….

Hang in there if you are a Melancholy, you are not alone. If you don’t know your temperament you should go and get tested. It will help you to understand yourself a lot better!

Thinking

It’s Alright To Be Melancholy…

Hello Everyone,

This is my first blog and I wanted to start blogging about something that I recently learned that I am.Recently, my husband and I sought counseling, we were having some issues with communicating and understanding one another. Now I know that “men are from mars and women are from venus” and we think differently, but what I didn’t know was that everyone has God given temperaments. What is a temperament? A temperament is the essence of who you are. It is who God created us to be from the beginning. There are five basic temperaments: The Melancholy, The Sanguine, The Supine, The Choleric, and the Phlegmatic. Everyone falls into these categories, most people have a dominant temperament. Well, through counseling, I found out that my husband was a Sanguine and I am a …yup, you guessed it a Melancholy. What’s wrong with that you may ask? Nothing, other than the fact that those two temperaments are the polar opposites. My husband is very outgoing, people orientated and a leader in everything he does, on the other hand I am uncomfortable around people, I never know what to say, I like my alone time and I am definitely not a leader.

My initial response after finding this out, was, does that mean there is no hope for my husband and I? Should we not be together? Silly me, that is just what a Melancholy would think. I ask you to take this journey with me as I introduce you to the world of the Melancholy. Through the ups and downs and sideway thinking a Melancholy. I recommend that EVERYONE get tested and see what their temperament is, men, women and children. It can help us in choosing a mate and in raising healthy and productive children. I am struggling everyday with being a Melancholy, but one thing I am coming to terms with is that God makes no mistakes, and he made me a Melancholy for a reason and I must learn to accept and it be happy with it.

Stay with me… I will tell you exactly what a Melancholy is…

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